alive again today

kittening: i reblog this every time i see it just because it’s...

Mon, 20 May 2013 23:58:33 -0400

i reblog this every time i see it just because it’s so frickin awesome like can we please destigmatize the whole idea of menstruation because it’s not gross it’s necessary to create life and blood is just blood!!!

We Eat an Apple In My Bed

Mon, 20 May 2013 23:56:48 -0400

mileswalser:

We’ve been kissing for months. Three times a week our toothbrushes share a chipped porcelain mug in my bathroom. As my lips reach for the juice falling from her laugh, her mom calls. I listen as she talks about Biology, her new job, asks about her sister. Her eyes drop as she whispers, No, I still don’t have a boyfriend.

On cue, I stop chewing. She looks at me, waiting for my face to flush, for me to tear from the bed, but I won’t get mad at her. She shouldn’t have to explain why we can’t go swimming in public, why I don’t own a razor, why she doesn’t need to buy birth control. She hangs up the phone; I pick up the fruit, tell her Apparently, there’s a tiny amount of cyanide in apple seeds.

She shrugs, says she can handle a little danger, but I’ve studied how her dimples disappear when she lies, and I know she’s thinking about a man she could parade around her family, who could kiss her scratchy with stubble. The kind of man I’ll never be.

She squeezes my hand in the movie theater dark but tosses it to the side in front of her friends. Says she just needs time. She walks on the sidewalk. I walk in the street. She closes the door. I kiss it goodnight. She goes home for Thanksgiving. I promise not to call.

If I were a postcard, she could hide me in her pocket. If I were clay, she could mold my body into something easier to love. If I were the guy who sells her a cup of coffee every morning. I could smile at her anonymously, safe as a stranger.

She kisses down my neck, my peel hiding the rotten fruit inside me. As I tell her about the cyanide, her head resting on my chest, she talks about cider, autumn pies. See, she says, Apples are harmless. But she saves the last bites for me, scared to let her lips wander too close to the core.

(From my new book, What the Night Demands, available HERE)

theredrubyx: Johnny Depp giving CPR to his jack Sparrow...

Mon, 20 May 2013 15:11:14 -0400

theredrubyx:

Johnny Depp giving CPR to his jack Sparrow wig.

His stunt double is having the best day

"I don’t believe in love at first sight but I do believe in seeing someone from across the room and..."

Mon, 20 May 2013 15:08:57 -0400

“I don’t believe in love at first sight but I do believe in seeing someone from across the room and knowing instantly that they’re going to matter to you.”

- Ryan O’Connell (via hellanne)

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Mon, 20 May 2013 11:42:38 -0400

"As a child I never heard one woman say to me, “I love my body.” Not my mother, my elder sister, my..."

Mon, 20 May 2013 00:54:55 -0400

“As a child I never heard one woman say to me, “I love my body.” Not my mother, my elder sister, my best friend. No one woman has ever said, “I am so proud of my body.” So I make sure to say it to Mia, because a positive physical outlook has to start at an early age.”

- Kate Winslet (via wrists)

nopolarbearsinnorway: kaluvinar: Hey guys, so here’s an update...

Sun, 19 May 2013 23:50:53 -0400

nopolarbearsinnorway:

kaluvinar:

Hey guys, so here’s an update on Monty!

Our little trooper came home from the vet today. As you can see, they actually found an eye underneath the swollen, pus-filled infection. His leg is looking better so it seems less likely that it will have to be amputated, although the x-ray showed that all of the toes in that paw had been completely crushed. We will still have to take him into the vet every two days for the next 6-8 weeks to have the bandages changed (seen on his back leg). After cleaning his nose we can now see what’s going on with it. None of this is pretty, and the veterinary bills are growing each day between the cost of his pain killers, antibiotics, and general medical attention.

We’re still collecting donations at our indiegogo page here:
http://www.indiegogo.com/projects/help-save-our-monty

If you could help us out by reblogging and helping to spread the word, or even by donating anything you have to spare, it would mean the world to us and our Monty.

Baby ; A ;

georgegoldz: best advice you’ll ever hear

Wed, 15 May 2013 18:04:41 -0400

georgegoldz:

best advice you’ll ever hear

dearscarlet: Dear Scarlet, About a month ago you asked if you...

Wed, 15 May 2013 15:16:26 -0400

dearscarlet:

Dear Scarlet,
About a month ago you asked if you could have a “circle mohawk” again. I told you to think about it because you’ve been growing your hair out for so long and I didn’t want you to regret it. On Sunday night I told you I had a hair appointment with Allison the next day. You asked if you could get your hair cut like that again, but you were laying down for bed and not supposed to be talking so I ignored you. The next day you asked twice, so I finally said I didn’t care and that you look beautiful whatever you decide. The last time your hair was like this you weren’t in school yet, I was so nervous about kids being cruel. I walked you to school on Tuesday morning and stayed awhile to make sure everything was going to go smoothly, which it did. When I picked you up you said, “Olivia liked my hair. She said she didn’t want her hair like this, but she liked mine like this. And we’re still friends. That’ just like how I don’t want to have purple hair like Allison, but I love Allison’s purple hair. You don’t have to have all the same stuff as your friends.” Wise beyond your years, baby child. I’m so proud of you and how you have the courage to be exactly who you want to be, despite any other outside influences. While we’re on the topic of gender, when I was at parent teacher conferences a few months ago a mom of this little boy approached me. She told me how he wanted to paint his nails and go to school. She let him. When he came home he said, “Scarlet loved my nails, Mom!” I’ve never been so proud.

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Wed, 15 May 2013 15:14:07 -0400

commie-femme: jamietheignorantamerican: jacketlizard: battroid...

Wed, 15 May 2013 01:37:30 -0400

commie-femme:

jamietheignorantamerican:

jacketlizard:

battroid:

takeawaygirl:

thegreatdesutree:

Unfortunately, this is a real restaurant and that is a real response. Their page was not hacked and thus trolled (that I know of). The owners are just really crazy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G6LY7TJ16pg

holy FUCK watch that video

i just watched that video (and the part 2). unbelievable

I’m like 7 minutes in and jesus christ

HOLY BALLS, I SAW THE FULL EPISODE ABOUT THIS TRAIN-WRECK OF A RESTAURANT.

GORDON RAMSAY LEFT THE RESTAURANT WITHOUT CHANGING IT BECAUSE HE SAID HE WAS SCARED AND DISTURBED BY THE PLACE AND IT’S OWNERS.

LET ME REPEAT THAT.

GORDON FUCKING RAMSAY SAID HE WAS SCARED AND DISTURBED BY HOW VICIOUS THE OWNERS ARE.

lmao this is like 15 minutes away from me

holy shit i just watched the whole thing and………..holy shit

"You either like me or you don’t. It took me twenty-something years to learn how to love myself, I..."

Tue, 14 May 2013 23:50:10 -0400

“You either like me or you don’t. It took me twenty-something years to learn how to love myself, I don’t have that kinda time to convince somebody else.”

- Daniel Franzese (via fleurstains)

pleatedjeans: “accidental” wrong link on a final research...

Tue, 14 May 2013 23:49:08 -0400

pleatedjeans:

“accidental” wrong link on a final research paper. via

birdmauscat: norsegays: astrolope: People being angry about...

Tue, 14 May 2013 23:42:38 -0400

birdmauscat:

norsegays:

astrolope:

People being angry about ~dem gays~ on Target’s Facebook.

I just want to give my two cents on this and tell you a story.

A couple weeks ago, I was hired at Target. I have a job at Target. Not a big deal right?

It is a big deal because i’m a transman.

It doesn’t take a genius to conclude that it’s hard for me, my brothers, and sisters to get a job. There are legal restraints regarding the job and if you don’t pass, it’s hard to be taken seriously at a job interview.

Right on the application, it asks what your preferred name is. It also asks if there is anything that target should know. I put the fact that I am a transman, expecting not to get a call because usually when you put that down, people will throw out the application. I got TWO interviews.

At the interview, they asked me about it. I told them I am on hormones and they told me that they didn’t care. Not in the sense that they don’t emotionally care, but that it didn’t matter. I was male and that’s all that mattered. They also told me that they give sex same couples benefits in states that do not recognize them as a married couple.

At my job orientation, I was not misgendered once. Even my supervisors who weren’t sure of my gender avoided pronoun use, which I found only happens when you’ve had pronoun training. They gave me a name tag with my preferred name and didn’t ask questions. I felt safe and respected, which is huge for a trans* person.

TLDR: Target is amazing not just for the LGB, but also the T. Shop there for the rest of your life.

Well now that I know this I will and refer everyone to work there.

metalled: yea you can “choose” the way you interpret what a slur means the same way you can say...

Tue, 14 May 2013 23:19:30 -0400

metalled:

yea you can “choose” the way you interpret what a slur means the same way you can say that the word “apple” could mean “banana” if you alter the meaning in your brain but in reality, if you say the word “apple” in front of a large group of people who have been exposed to apples their whole lives the majority will think of this

de-lish: abbigshmail: lagio: sad-teeth: So today Angelina...

Tue, 14 May 2013 23:18:35 -0400

de-lish:

abbigshmail:

lagio:

sad-teeth:

So today Angelina Jolie had double mastectomy, which is the removal of one’s breasts, to prevent Breast cancer. So instead of praising Angelina on her bravery, men on Twitter decided to ridicule her, even calling her stupid for removing her breasts. For those of you on Tumblr that are attacking Feminists about being delusional about sexism against women and misogyny here’s your fucking proof that sexism and misogyny exists.

This honestly is making me really fucking sad and making me want to cry

I hate everyone.

this BLINDS ME WITH RAGE. but even more so, as the granddaughter of someone who had a double mastectomy, this makes my heart ache so hard… :( UGH.

gaytransguys: fuckyourgender: I love how this makes more...

Tue, 14 May 2013 00:16:25 -0400

gaytransguys:

fuckyourgender:

I love how this makes more sense than doing 15 minutes of argumentative Trans 101 with an adult.

"Marry your best friend. I do not say that lightly. Really, truly find the strongest, happiest..."

Tue, 14 May 2013 00:10:59 -0400

““Marry your best friend. I do not say that lightly. Really, truly find the strongest, happiest friendship in the person you fall in love with. Someone who speaks highly of you. Someone you can laugh with. The kind of laughs that make your belly ache, and your nose snort. The embarrassing, earnest, healing kind of laughs. Wit is important. Life is too short not to love someone who lets you be a fool with them. Make sure they are somebody who lets you cry, too. Despair will come. Find someone that you want to be there with you through those times. Most importantly, marry the one that makes passion, love, and madness combine and course through you. A love that will never dilute - even when the waters get deep, and dark.””

- N’tima (via rippedvanwinkle)

"For the last three decades many Americans have puzzled over a system that gives an R to a movie in..."

Mon, 13 May 2013 19:14:49 -0400

““For the last three decades many Americans have puzzled over a system that gives an R to a movie in which a women is carved up by a chainsaw and an NC-17 to one that shows a woman sexually pleasured. From such ratings one might conclude that sexual violence against women is OK for American teenagers to see, but that they must be 18 to see consensual sex. What message does this send to the kids the MPAA presumably means to protect?””

- Carrie Rickey

(via fireworkselectricbright)

“You have to question a cinematic culture which preaches artistic expression, and yet would support a decision that is clearly a product of a patriarchy-dominant society, which tries to control how women are depicted on screen. The MPAA is okay supporting scenes that portray women in scenarios of sexual torture and violence for entertainment purposes, but they are trying to force us to look away from a scene that shows a woman in a sexual scenario which is both complicit and complex. It’s misogynistic in nature to try and control a woman’s sexual presentation of self. I consider this an issue that is bigger than this film.”

-Ryan Gosling on the controversy around the rating of his film ‘Blue Valentine’

(via misandry-mermaid)

"I think a better definition of ‘flashback’ needs to be made. It doesn’t have to be a visual..."

Mon, 13 May 2013 19:13:56 -0400

“

I think a better definition of ‘flashback’ needs to be made.

It doesn’t have to be a visual memory. It can be auditory - the sound of a door slamming as an example - or even just a body memory. Like, your body just feels something that’s psychosomatic.

It doesn’t even have to hit you immediately. I want to communicate this because for the longest time, I didn’t think I was being triggered, even though I would feel like crap because I wouldn’t have a panic attack.

Basically, flashbacks are anything that brings you and/or your body back to the time of trauma. It doesn’t have to be conscious, and you don’t have to realize, “Oh, this is happening because of the trauma.” Just like serious nightmares don’t have to be the kind that wake you up crying in the middle of the night.

”

- Anonymous on survivorrat.tumblr (via queerbeen)

Thank you, whoever wrote this. I’ve struggled sometimes because most of the descriptions of PTSD symptoms I’ve read talk solely about visual flashbacks. Not that I’ve had cause to doubt the PTSD itself, since I have almost every single symptom on most lists. But I’ve had a hard time recognizing my flashbacks as such because they’re almost always body memory, sometimes auditory, almost never visual. They’re scary, and it really helps to understand what’s going on when I feel like past trauma is happening again.

(via evelark)

COSIGNED. this is so fucking helpful. i don’t get like… violently triggered usually, so i can never really tell if i’m being “legitimately” triggered, which is fucked up because my feelings and experiences are mine and not anyone else’s so this is just super nice and validating to read <3

(via about1000kisses-shy)